why don’t we do what we say we want to do?

by chas on April 8, 2009

photo by jelles  photo by jelles

why don’t we do what we say we want to do?

the way i see it is that we are either deluded about what we say we want to do, ie we don’t really want to do it, it’s just an idea, something we haven’t really gotten into or even thought through, and what we really want to do is sit on the couch and watch television, or we think it is not really possible.

okay then, or well. thinking it through…that’s the solution for the first group…

  • take the time. 
  • think it through. 
  • research it. 
  • talk to people who are doing it. 
  • read books. 
  • examine yourself. 
  • try it in baby steps. 
  • get to know it like you’d get to know a girl or a guy–
  • don’t just sit back and have a silent obsession!

and then that other group–equally deluded into thinking that what they want to do is impossible: well maybe it is. like if you want to…well i actually can’t think of anything that is impossible other than those obvious things like teaching cows to dance ballet…in which case we have a 3rd type of delusion on our hands, or more likely a simple hack of redirecting that desire into teaching digital cows to dance ballet. or something like that.

the impossible group

so this second group, the impossible group, is dealing with, well, this is more challenging that group number one, many of whom end up in this group once they get clear about whether or not they really actually do want to do that thing they say (think) they want to do. and the first thing here again is to explore with thought and such just how true this idea of impossibility is. it doesn’t matter if the impossibility is based on fear or on more supposedly rational reasons. just break it down and see if you are running up against things like scale. or specificity.

the frank sinatra example

like maybe you won’t ever be frank sinatra. duh. and maybe you can find some people to play music with. and maybe some of the people who hear you sing might comment that you remind them of sinatra.

and lot’s of people make a living (or a good chunk of one) playing music. always important though, to separate your lifestyle from the things that you do for cash, from where your money comes from. because if you want to be a millionaire and travel the world, and you want to sing like frank sinatra, well all of that isn’t too far fetched. there are lot’s of millionaires, there are lot’s of people who travel the world, and there are lots of people who sing like frank sinatra.

it isn’t by any means impossible to do any of those things, if you really want to do them and you are willing to put thought, heart, and deed into them. however. it isn’t quite as likely that you are going to make the million because people think that you are the re-incarnation of frank sinatra.

what makes the muskrat guard its musk?

and why should that stop you from pursuing your musical dream? and why should that stop you from travelling? and why should that stop you from making some $$? if your dream requires a guarantee of hitting the top tomorrow that’s deluded group number 4. sorry. and here’s the thing…

what makes a truly great singer is that they will sing regardless. what makes a great world traveller is that they will find a way to travel regardless.

so let go of scale and begin where you are. and don’t burden your dreams with the job of making you a million dollars!

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